The Private Entertainers Association is a private, member-led community for the people behind the work. These guidelines exist to keep this a safe place to socialize, share honestly, and look out for one another, privately and without judgment.
By joining PEA Social, you agree to follow these guidelines. They work alongside our Terms and Privacy Policy. Moderators may act on the spirit of these rules, not just the letter.
Who this community is for
- Adults only, 18+. Everyone here must be an adult. There are no exceptions, ever.
- By invitation. Membership is invitation-only and tied to your account. Do not share your login, sell or transfer your access, or invite anyone you would not personally vouch for.
- One person, one account. Be a real person behind your presence here. You never have to use your legal name, but do not impersonate another member, a staff member, or anyone else.
Our four commitments, and what we ask of you
Everything below comes back to the four things we never compromise on.
Safety first
- Share safety information in good faith and from real experience. Say what you know, how you know it, and be clear about what is firsthand versus secondhand.
- Do not post accusations you cannot stand behind. False, malicious, or retaliatory claims about a patron, colleague, or venue put real people at risk and undermine the trust the whole community relies on.
- Treat CrystalVerify and every safety resource here as one signal among many, never a guarantee. A positive trust trail is not a promise, and its absence is not proof someone is unsafe. Keep running your own screening, agree a check-in, tell someone where you are, and give yourself permission to walk away. Your judgment is always the final word.
- Do not use the community or the trust system as a weapon. Coordinated pile-ons, fake ratings, or vouches you did not earn will be removed and can cost you your membership.
Privacy by default
- What is shared here stays here. Do not screenshot, copy, record, or repost anything from the forum, private messages, or member resources anywhere outside PEA.
- Protect other members’ identities. Never share, guess at, or try to uncover a member’s legal name, location, workplace, socials, or contact details. No doxxing, of members or of patrons, full stop.
- Protect your own privacy too. Think before you post anything that ties your working persona to your legal identity. Once it is shared, you cannot fully take it back.
- Handle patron information responsibly. Safety-sharing is welcome; exposing someone’s private data for harassment or revenge is not. Keep it to what genuinely helps members stay safe.
Real community
- Every path is welcome. Dancers, companions, performers, massage therapists, whatever your corner of the industry, you belong. No shaming anyone for their specialty, their rates, their choices, or their boundaries.
- No hate, harassment, or threats. That includes bigotry of any kind, targeted pile-ons, sexual harassment of other members, stalking, or intimidation.
- Disagree like a colleague. Debate ideas, not people. Assume good faith, especially on hard days.
- Support, do not diagnose or prescribe. Share your experience freely; leave medical, legal, and financial advice to the professionals, and say when you are just speaking from your own situation.
Knowledge sharing
- Share news, resources, and lived experience openly, and credit your sources where you can.
- Do not knowingly spread misinformation, scams, or opportunities that seem too good to be true. If you are not sure something is legit, flag it rather than amplify it.
- Keep member-only resources member-only. Templates, guides, and directories shared here are not for public distribution.
This is a community, not a marketplace
PEA Social exists to connect and protect its members, not to buy, sell, or arrange work. To keep everyone safe and the platform sustainable, the forum and community spaces are not for:
- Advertising or soliciting services, posting rates or menus, or arranging, negotiating, or paying for any transaction.
- Explicit sexual or pornographic content, or content posted to solicit rather than to inform or connect.
- Recruiting members for outside ventures, managing others’ work, or any arrangement that pressures or controls another person.
Candid, mature discussion of the work itself is exactly what this space is for. Using the community to advertise, solicit, or transact is not, and posting content that facilitates anything illegal will be removed and reported.
Absolute lines, zero tolerance
These result in immediate removal, a permanent ban, and, where required, a report to the authorities:
- Anything involving a minor, in any form.
- Non-consensual content, including sharing intimate images or information without consent.
- Trafficking, coercion, or exploitation of any person.
- Credible threats of violence toward any member or person.
Scams, security, and your money
- Never share financial account details, ID documents, or verification codes with another member. No legitimate member or staffer will ask.
- Report phishing, sextortion attempts, impersonation, and pay-to-get-vetted schemes. We would rather see a false alarm than miss a real one.
- Discreet billing and your account security are yours to protect. Use a strong, unique password and do not reuse credentials across sites.
Moderation and enforcement
- We are member-led and member-protected. Moderators are part of this community, and veteran members are encouraged to help lead it.
- Reporting is easy and confidential. Use the report tools or contact a moderator. Reporting in good faith never gets you in trouble; abusing reports to harass someone does.
- Consequences scale with the situation, from a quiet word or edit, to content removal, to temporary suspension, to a permanent ban for serious or repeated harm. The zero-tolerance lines above skip straight to removal.
- Appeals. If you think we got it wrong, you can ask us to take another look. We aim to be fair, consistent, and human about it.
A final word
We built PEA Social so the work feels a little less isolating and a lot more safe. That only works if every one of us shows up honestly, protects each other’s privacy, and treats this space like the community it is. Look out for one another, and if something here does not feel right, tell us.